Marriage.

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> Q: Can a person be saved if they were married got a
> divorce, and then remarried? 
> 


> In Matthew 5:32, Jesus says that if a person divorces
> someone for the reason of fornication (adultery) that
> person is free to marry. 

Respectfully, Bro. Litteral, adultery and fornication are two 
different things.  Jesus is referring to Deuteronomy 22:13,14.  If on 
your wedding night you find out your spouse is a fornicator, then you 
can end the marriage right there and remarry.  However, after you're 
married and your spouse commits adultry, you *do not* have the right to 
remarry.  Adultery and fornication are two different things.  They 
are mentioned as separate things in the bible.  You can't plug 
adultery into Matthew 5:32.  It says fornication.

> The only other instance that this can take place is if a
> new convert's spouse chooses not to "remain" with that
> person. This comes from 1 Corinthians 7:15 which says that
> if the unbelieving depart from the believing to let them go
> and that the believer is not under bondage.

The believer is not under bondage to stay married to the 
unbeliever.  The scripture gives that person no right to marry again, 
though.

> The only
> legitimate way for an unbeliever and a believer to be
> married is for two unbelievers to be married and for one to
> "become" a believer since believers are not to marry the
> unbelieving.

This is true.

> In verse 16 however Paul says that if the
> unbeliever will stay for the believer to try to convert the
> unbeliever by their lifestyle.

Right.

> This too has the implication
> that the unbeliever is among the "dead" therefore "freeing"
> the believer but since we are called to peace not to
> "force" the issue. 

This doesn't give the believer the right to remarry.  What if the 
unbeliever repents.  He's no longer "dead". 
 
> I would like to add that if a person is in a relationship
> that is abusive or they just really cannot stand the other
> person they are free to separate from this person but
> cannot remarry (1 Cor 7:10-11). This also says to not do
> this unless it is absolutely necessary. The way it is
> phrased implies that it is the Lord's will that the married
> live together in peace but if this is not possible you may
> leave but you are still married. If you again want a mate
> you must be reunited with your spouse. 

Right. 

> To recap, a person can remain saved after a divorce and
> remarriage if they are the innocent spouse of an adulterer
> and if they are a new convert whose spouse has chosen to
> leave them. If you have no other recourse you may leave and
> not divorce a spouse but you must not remarry and if you
> chose to you can be reconciled to your spouse. 

Wrong.  Just because one spouse breaks his/her vow to the other and 
commits adultery doesn't give the other spouse the right to break 
his/her vow to the first spouse!  This doctrine is tearing apart the Apostolic 
ranks.  Back during the Great Depression *no church* taught this doctrine. 
One by one they all started dropping their standards and we see what the 
denominal world is like today.  Now there are people in the Apostolic 
ranks doing the same thing.  Bro. Litteral, please take a good look 
at what you're promoting here!
 
> Any remarriages by a person who was divorced while a
> believer, even if backsliden, under any other circumstances
> than these makes them an adulterer until they terminate the
> marriage and remain unmarried. 

Right.

>It is easy to see why the
> Apostles said that it would be better for a man not to
> marry then is it not? 
> 
> Timothy Litteral

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