Marriage

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hi folks,

I been loosley following the discussion on divorce. And again I want to put
in my 2 cents in form of a question or maybe 2. 


1. How many of you that talk about this subject are divorced?
2. If so, how long have you been divorced?
3. If you are not divorced, don't you think it is kind of easy for you
married couples    to talk about this subject without really knowing what it
is like? (excluding those    couples that have been divorced and remarried,
of course.)

The reason I am asking these questions is because I want you to start
thinking and I want to try to feel like someone that is divorced. I been
divorced for almost 10 years now. I got seperated right around the time I
found the church. Ever since my divorce, I had to listen to preaching about
how wonderful and God-ordained an intact family is (which is right, I deeply
believe that), but that made me feel like a second rate Christian. For a
long time I felt like dirt, cause I am divorced. I felt like a monster
without a head, cause "the husband is the head of the woman". You know, some
sort of freak. It has always been my deepest desire to be like the Proverbs
31 woman, but I can't, cause I don't have a husband, who could sit in the
gates and "boast" about me :). Another thing is the loneliness. 10 years
folks....think about that. I was 24 when I got separated now I am 34 still
fairly young. Some of you folks weren't even married with 24. I know all the
bible says about divorce and remarriage...and I am so far to say that,
should the Lord want me to remarry, He will sent someone my way and with
prayer and fasting I will find out His will. If I am to stay alone, well
that is fine, I did it for 10 years I can do it 10 more years. What I am
trying to get you to consider is that the subject you talk about is a very
touchy one for those that are divorced and those that have remarried. Please
don't condemn, or look down on us....but try to think like we think and try
to feel like we feel and then consider what you will write in your postings.
:) Biblically speaking, I know all the scriptures about divorce and
remarriage, I bet everybody that is in my situation does. I think in the
end, it is up to a merciful God, who will never burden us with more than we
can bare to lead and guide us to the place wher He wants us to be. :) Doris 
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