Mixed Races

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> Sis. Corey:
>  If I were to date a White man (I'm African-American), no
> one has to approve of my choice, but me because I'm the one
> who has to like him.  
> 
> Me:
> Umm... What about the young gentleman?
> 
> Timothy (I will leave no nit unpicked) Litteral
I was talking about the fact that no one has to approve anyone I date
except me.  It doesn't have to be okay with my family or anyone else.  As
long as he and I are equally yoked, he likes me and I like him, it's cool.
We can do a little something, something.

You can pick whatever  you want.

Another thing I wanted to address is how the original poster said that's
not what he meant in his post.  Everyone perceives things a different way.
WE are not psychic and how we interpret something may not be the same as
another person interprets it.  I still stand by my statement that this
pastor should not really have anything to say about who these kids date.
The parents should be more than able to prepare them for any social
problems they might encounter.

I also want to include a story.

I attend a predominantly African-American church.  Our Pastor is Caucasian
and there are a number of other ethnicities at my church, but it's mostly
African-American.  This is relevant because Pentecostalism is not for just
one set race and there is still racism among God's people. 

My grandmother holds a position at our church and our first lady asked her
to attend a seminar at another church.  My grandmother is very punctual
and she got to the other church before the seminar got started.  She
registered and took a seat.  When she arrived she was the only
African-American lady there.  So she took a seat and saw this Caucasian
lady going around greeting all the people there.  There were these two
ladies siting on a pew directly in front of the one my grandma was sitting 
on and this Caucasian lady came and greeted these ladies and was within an
arm's reach of my grandma and walked off as if my grandma wasn't there.
At that point my grandma because very sad and decided to leave because she
felt like if this lady could come within an arm's reach o her and not
speak, she wouldn't get very much out the seminar if she felt the people
there were prejudiced against her.

I said all of that to say this:  To me the original poster's message came
across as him trying to see" how do I handle the situation of them dating
in the event that the Lord tarries?"  To me that question says what do I
do if they start dating someone of another race?   What is he supposed to
want to know what to do?  What does he want to say to the family?  I think
there is nothing  he can really say in this situation because as he stated
it's not something that will happen now, but down the line and if it does
happen, there is nothing for him worry about because the parents knew
what they were getting into in adopting these mixed raced children.  I'm
not saying they know everything as one poster suggested, but they knew the
racial prejudice that exists and had enough love and compassion in their
hearts to take these children into their homes.  I think they have enough
knowledgeability on this subject to prepare their children for what is
to come.  Children aren't racists, they are taught to be that way.  In
relation with the story about my grandma, racism does still exist, but if
we continue to bring up subjects about race that really don't matter, it
will continue to exist where it shouldn't.

Corey Wooten