Mixed Races

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Bro. Harrell: 
> This is not a problem for the couple AT ALL!! This is a
problem that the perpetrator must deal with.

Me:
True, the "sin" is in the perpetrators, but the couple
should be prepared for this.  If they have had a relatively
long engagement this shouldn't be much of a problem, but I
think the issue should be addressed.
 
Bro. Harrell:
> Besides, I get all that treatment anyway, even BEFORE I
was married!!

Me:
I get the same treatment in places, this too should be part
of counseling for marriage.  I have a criminal record and
lousy credit, my prospective bride should know these things
too.  Worst of all I SNORE!  It takes a lot of pressure of
to talk these things through.

Bro. Harrell:
> So if you're saying that they shouldn't be married
because they have to deal with that treatment,...

Me:
You're way out in left field here, I "never" said they
shouldn't marry but that part of "responsible" premarrital
counseling will include the topic of the "additional"
stresses involved.

Bro. Harrell:
...then you're ALSO saying that I shouldn't have been
born...because I deal with that stuff every day!

Me:
You're out of the ballpark here.  My stance on racism is
"well" documented.
 
You:
> I've been called a "nigger" as recent as a couple of
months ago! 

Me:
Sorry to hear this.  I am.  That word hurts me.  The major
reason it hurts me is that it is the word that was used for
blacks when I was growing up.  I was shocked the first time
I used this word (I was probably 4) and saw the hurt on the
woman's face.  She said "I don't blame you child, you only
know what you were taught."  I thought the word was the
same as "German" or "Chinese."

I won't say I never used it again but I used when I did use
it it was to intentionally hurt.  I don't use the word at
all since I was saved.

Bro. Harrell: 
I experience social discrimination almost EVERY WEEK!! I am
ignored in stores ALL THE TIME!! So, what's the problem??? 

Me:
So do I but I would suspect that you have "more" to contend
with than I.  Is that a "racist" statement?  The church I
attend is "mostly" blacks and always has been.  People ask
me "Do they let any white people attend?"  

Sometimes I 'want' to say "No, not a one." but that would
help no one.  I smile and say "Come and find out for
yourself."  

Bro. Harrell:
If I can deal with it for the past 18 or so years, then the
couple should have no problem with it.

Me:
Many don't have a problem.  Some do.  I have no problem
with the remarks made to me, some in the church do. 

Timothy Litteral
472 Grant St.
Marion Ohio 43302
brotim@gte.net
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