MARRIAGE

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>Nevertheless, could someone please help
>me in any way possible via personal experiences with engagement and marriage,
>etc?  I want to know the ins and outs as much as I possibly can so
>that I can be the effective husband that I should be according to His
>Word.

My mother reminded me of something my uncle said awhile ago.  He said
that marriages start to go off the right track when one of the two
begins to think of how they and the other party can please themselves.
During courtship the focus is on the other person.  You know, "What
can I do to please you?  Where do YOU want to go tonight?"  Believe it
or not, it is easy to take the other person for granted after you have
been married for a year or so.

As far as engagements - get married fast.  If you have found the right
one - well - marry her.  If she is God's choice for you it's only
frustration to wait.  On the other hand, some women want a lot of time
to plan.  Whatever!  That's my advice.  I'm sure some people on the
list think waiting is a good idea.  I think you should definitely wait
until you hear God's voice - wait a week or two after that - then
propose - then marry ASAP.  Could you imagine Issac waiting nine or
ten months.  No way!  Read the Bible - it was fast.   You could have
three or four extra months of marriage added to your life.

Finding the right companion is worth waiting for, but if you've found
them - why wait?

Ben Kimbrell