Public Schools and discipline

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I work for the public school system. I'm not at a school, I am at the 
District office and my boss is over all the secondary (7-12) 
principals. We get all of the suspension/expulsion notices and I see 
"ALOT" believe me! Child abuse laws started with "child abuse" and like 
many things in our country (probably because of "power rushes" in 
people's attitudes), it got out of hand. Unfortunately you do see cases 
where people are turned in for child abuse when they shouldn't have 
been, when they should have gone after the neighbors who really do 
abuse their kids. It's happened to some of my best friends and it was a 
sad situation! Thank God that's over! It could very easily have been 
any one of us. The sad thing that I've noticed is that most of these 
parents with the "bad" kids don't think their kids do any wrong! If 
they would just back up the school sometimes, the kid would have a 
chance. The kid gets no discipline at all and when they need it the 
most, mommy is in the office protecting the child from what? A chance 
to grow in character and attitude? An opportunity to see his mistakes 
and make them right? The experience of handling "life"? I have noticed 
that parents who guide their children to do the right thing give their 
kids a chance. They almost always make a come back Now there are cases 
when teachers are wrong. That's a different situation and in those 
cases the "teacher should be corrected". 
    I loved Sister Southgate's post. The key when spanking is probably 
not to leave marks and only spank on the backside. That's the way my 
mom did it and that's the way I do it, but I save the spanking for the 
rebellion problems. The other times she stays home, or sits down, or 
does without the phone or whatever. Every once in a while I still have 
to give my daughter a little smack. A little smack can leave a BIG 
impression if you know what I mean and that's without marks. My 
daughter is bigger than I am now so if she had no respect for me I'd be 
in "big" trouble. I believe if you discipline lovingly and respectfully 
they'll return those feelings even when they outgrow you =). 
    My posts haven't been very long lately. I guess I'm making up for 
lost time (or space). Sorry 'bout that!  God bless!
    Laurie Gibson