Ain't God Good?-reply bp

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From:  ecok.internet."BUCKET6755@aol.com"

I wanted to reply to Sis. Davis and to the list since others may be
in an adoption situtation as I am.  BP.

BP>God also allowed me to find my Birthmother (i am adopted) and 2
>wonderful brothers and a great sister as well.  I went to see them
>for the second time last saturday.   >

Brother, I remember you answering me e-mail when I mentioned that we
had adopted a son.  I was wondering how you felt when you found your
Birthmother.
 Did you feel your adopted parents were any less of parents
afterward? 
*****   Not really.  After finding out the reasons, I knew GOd had
worked it out for the best.  I have also talked with my siblings and
there is nothing to ever hold against my mother.  (My natural father
is dead.  Died in a car wreck when I was about a year old.  So my
siblings are half brothers and sisters.  My birth mom remarried.)

>> Did you always feel apart of you was missing before you found your
Birthmother?  
****** Yes and no.  I always wanted dto find my roots to see where I
came from..  Ibelieve it is a desire of most adopted children.  But I
also knew if I never found them I had a wonderful family to rely on. 
Of which my Adopted family is still more family to me.  I call my
adopted mother mom of course.

I guess I am seeking answers because I want my son to always love me
and not feel cheated out of anything in life as far as love goes.
****This is something I really know.  My adopted mom has gotten so
protective now, but to me she is still mama.  My birth mother I
either call kay (her name) or Mom kay to distinuish.

  I have read many things about adoption (if fact, just about
everything that comes my way) and so many adoptees say that they feel
as if a part of them is missing.  I love my son so much, and I don't
want to deprive him of love.  *****There is a lot of heartache in
searching, as I went trough it with an aunt who is really responsible
for helping.  She blames my birth mom for her brother's death (Birth
Father) and sort of put it off on me.  I was able to ignore it and
keep on trucking since I never have met the aunt face to face.  I had
a happy reunion but home is still with my adopted parents, and they
will be always my parents.  My birth relatives are more of just an
extended family.  Your son will proably always still call you mom as
you are the one who is rasing him.  My adopted dad had a brother who
was raised by his aunt and he called her mom untill she died.  His
birth mom never really became "mom" untill after that though he knew
her all his life.  Sis. Davis, I hope this has helped and I will be
praying for you and any other who is going through this as well that
I do not know.  May GOD bless and keep you.
If you want to talk about it more or any one else as well, be free to
contact me.

Sincerely, 
Brandon Parker
East central University
Ada, Ok.
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