Choice permitted or not to women?

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Bro.Berger writes:
>>Do you tell him as Pastor or do you not tell him as the husband?
>>
>>Does he trust your judgement or remind you of his postition.

Wendy Horn writes:
>In response to Bro Berger's question:
>
>I have been faced with such situations.  When I am approached with a
>"please, don't tell the pastor" phrase, I remind them that HE is the
>pastor, over the flock.  If I feel he needs to know something, I 
>definitely
>tell him and tell the party involved that I will do so.

I appreciate Sis. Horn's response to these questions. First, my husband
wouldn't press me for information.  He respects my limitations on what I
feel I can tell him and what I can't.  Basically, I tell him most things
anyway.  If someone has come to me in confidence I will not break that
confidence but at the same time if it was something I felt my husband had
to know I would press her to tell my husband. 

Hypothetically, if my husband did press me, I don't think I could tell
him something that was told me in confidence.  I would instead press the
person who told me to tell him herself. When does a person have a "right"
to know something that was spoken in confidence? I think that sometimes a
person's right to speak in confidence and trust that it not be broken is
greater than someone else's "right"to know. There may be certain
situations when it is okay, like when lives are in danger etc. I, too, am
thankful for a husband who is not intimidated by my call.

Lynne Yohnk

 

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