Choice permitted or not to women?

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Brother Josh;

These two shall become one flesh..........

For this reason will a man with leave his father and mother and......

I do not go into my wives purse, though I could, because she has nothing to
hide. I would not read her mail, I would never invade any area that SHE
thought was private, knowing this, that if I asked, she would tell.

We have learned this lesson very hard.... That when something becomes "off
limits" to other person, then trust in the relationship suffers. There is no
need for secrets to be kept. Paul dealing with the most intimate area of
marriage, states that each belongs to the other and they are not to defraud
each other, except it be with permission, and that for a session. This way
the Devil had not gained any ground on them. This is the same for secrets,
you cannot hold a secret in a marriage. For at that moment, you have opened
an area that the devil will use to gain an advantage. If I trust my wife, I
will share with her. We have both learned this lesson very well. What one
has agreed not to tell, basically binds both of us to that agreement, unless
someone is in danger.

I see this as a deeper problem of the 20th century, that everyone is crying
for personal rights. It has bled over to the church. This even touches on
the area of standards. We as a people are more worried about personal rights
than marriage obligations. Personal rights become second in a marriage. I
WANT THE MEN ON THE LIST TO KNOW THAT I AM TALKING TO ALL MARRIED PERSONS,
NOT JUST WOMEN. When you get married you give up the right to have personal
rights that are above marriage responsibilities.

We need to lay aside this personal rights stuff in marriage and think of
what is good for the marriage. We are the light of the earth, and that needs
to show through, in every aspect of our lives. What better place to show
this as in marriage. People marvel at Linda and I, they cannot understand
how we do it. We do not keep secrets, not one. There are times that I don't
ask for an explanation. that is when people began to ask her the questions.
Why didn't your husband give you the 3rd degree.... Her response is, if he
wanted to know I would have told him.... and he knew it.

That holds true for me. If my wife asks me a question, I answer it. In truth
without withholding anything from her. That way she knows that she can ask
and trust the fact that I will tell her. So guess what, she only asks when
there is a need to know. It is really hard to explain  I guess. It seems to
me that when we have secrets, then there are problems, when you are open
with the spouse, then the problems seem to die down.

That is why marriage is so hard though today. Everyone is crying for their
personal rights. We give those up. We now have to think about the Kids, the
Wife, putting food on the table, etc, those take on a greater weight than
the personal rights.

Just my humble opinion.....

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In the service of the King....
Kirk Moore
United Pentecostal Church of Renton
Renton, WA

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