Choice permitted or not to women?

Bill Clifton (@nettaxi.com)
Mon, 19 Oct 1998 07:30:51 -0600
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Kathy Garza wrote:

> I could use some feedback on an issue that has cropped up:
>
> A married sis. and her husband (both in the church faithful) are at logger
> heads concerning choice.  It seems that the Bro. asked the sister a question
> concerning some unrelated information that she knew.  It was very easy for
> the bro. to obtain the same info from other sources.  But, he ASKED her
> about it and she chose to not answer even giving her reasons for doing so.
> He continue to badger until it became harassment until finally he declared
> to her that she was unsubmissive because She wouldn't answer His question.
> Excuse me?  But, didn't he ask? Not tell her to inform him?  So does she
> have the choice to not reply? and how can it be unsubmissive?
>
> This one is a booger>
>
> Sisiter Kathy

Having read most of the responces I am confused  abit....This is a church going
man and wife...the wife know something and the husband wants to know, he could
find out but rather have his wife tell him. Is this right?

Who is the booger....my opinion (not knowing a thing about the information) is
that both are off base. If the info is not told in confidence (it was stated
that he could find out) then the wife ought to tell him. But if it is that open
an issue that he could find out the husband should not make a major issue out of
it either. It is not worth it!

About secrets in marriage...I know some things (church issues) that I have not
shared with my wife and she has been told things in confidence she has not told
me. This is not a problem in our marriage or a lack of trust it is respect for
1) each other (I have heard a few things that could distract her - or anyone
else that hears it) and 2) for the source of the information. When you are told
something in confidence, sometimes you should not tell anyone and just take it
to Jesus in prayer.

Lord Bless;
Bro. Bill Clifton
woodrow_@nettaxi.com
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